He created a scene in the restaurant where the couple had met. Our romantic conversation changed to verbal abuse when I refused to pay him money," Shouvik recounts his dreadful encounter.Īfter the spat, Shouvik’s abuser refused to return his scooter keys and threatened to reveal his identity. Upon reaching there, he suddenly asked for a debit card and I was taken aback. All this while I was under the assumption that he had read my message for a casual meeting. He asked for my scooter keys and drove me to Nehru place to a restaurant. He arrived and we started conversing normally. I was stunned and immediately messaged him to come just for a casual meeting. On reaching the meeting point, I opened the app and realised that he changed his bio on the profile to a “guy for paid sex”. What he expected to be a nice casual date ended up with him being robbed. There are many like him in the community who are targeted because they are discreet and until decriminalisation of section 377, they had no legal recourse to seek justice or pursue the case.Īnother gay man, Shouvik*, 26, had a hard time getting back to social media after he had an awful experience on Grindr. This anonymity is the selling point of the app and also the most dangerous aspect of it.Īpoorv is not the only who has endured this agony.
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Unlike Tinder, where you link your Facebook account for verification, no such verification is needed for Grindr. Everyone with a valid email ID can join Grindr. It’s just like any ordinary dating app, with way less verification process, perhaps to ensure the anonymity remains. Like many in the LGBT community, Apoorv used Grindr, an app where you can anonymously look for other men for casual dates, friendships and hook-ups. It was this friend who paid for the auto and administered first-aid to Apoorv. The 31-year-old had then somehow managed to take an auto to reach a friend, a doctor. It’s been five years, but the traumatic event still gives him nightmares. They took my phone and ATM cards - withdrew 25,000/- and threw me out," he recounts, his voice cracking as he tries to recall the horrific incident which pushed him to depression.Īpoorv was suicidal for many months that followed. “When I woke up they were there and kept raping me and beating me one by one. Two more men joined them and he was forcibly taken to an unknown location where he was raped and robbed.Īpoorv said he was forcibly fed ‘some liquid’ and he lost consciousness after that. When using a search engine such as Google, Bing or Yahoo check the safe search settings where you can exclude adult content sites from your search results Īsk your internet service provider if they offer additional filters īe responsible, know what your children are doing online.Top US Catholic Priest Quits Over Claims of Frequenting Gay Bars, Using Hookup App GrindrĪpoorv’s ordeal didn’t stop here. Use family filters of your operating systems and/or browsers
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